Hello my dear friends, I am sorry I have been in a bit of a blogging slump. It has been quite a rough past month, but now I really am focusing on making the time to blog and even schedule my posts ahead of time so that I have them all set and have some hopefully fun reads for you all :)
I have begun to realize some things as a stay at home mom. Regardless of whether you're a working mom or stay at home mom, I think this concept applies to all moms. As difficult as it may be to get through some days with two toddlers because they present different types of challenges. For example- the other day my girls just did not want anything to do with one another and decided that as soon as they would come in contact or get close to each other, that one would physically hurt the other. This type of situation is the most challenging for me to handle because I am not for physical forms of punishment like slaps on the wrists or spanking, so in taking the non-physical route of discipline, I try to separate them and find a means of distraction techniques to get their minds off whatever was causing them to want to hurt one another. I do, however, find that I have been raising my voice. This is something I really do not like doing, however, I get mocked by the girls for the simple forms of discipline that I try and use, so I resort to increasing my tone. Since it is a bit of a struggle for me to find the happy medium of things and being a stay at home mom currently, I am the primary disciplinarian, I want to remember that I need to cherish these days that I get to be with my girls...every single moment. Though they may not be happy with me, nor I may be happy with them at certain moments, the days are long but the years are short!
I am very grateful for the support system that I have so that when I am struggling through the really tough days, I have resources to call and have some help so that I can give one on one attention with one of the girls and whoever comes over to help can give the other one their attention. I think that is the challenge with two kids because it takes awhile to learn how to divide your self to give them the attention they need/deserve without neglecting the needs of the other child.
Many of my friends who have more than two children say that the adjustment from going from two to three or more children is a lot easier because the older ones begin to form their own special bond and also want to share in the joy of having a new baby in the family that they may be of the age to help with. And that to me makes a decent amount of sense. I've always believed that while you must divide yourself in half, thirds, fourths, etc depending on the number of children you have, you also double, triple and quadruple your love for your family, which is something incredibly special.
I try to remind myself as often as possible, even in the heat of a big moment with one or both of the girls, that today is just ONE day, it's a phase of their lives, it will pass. Tomorrow may be a wonderful day and that makes yesterday just the past. But no matter what the days are like, everyday is a gift- and should truly be treated as such, because we never know when we may not have that gift anymore.
So there it is...my take on the joys of parenting and my attempts of taking things one day at a time!